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Is sex on the first date wrong?
I can't lie and say I haven't before...
Jan 21st, 2009 @ 09:36 AM
Vicky Says
Report Feb 10th, 2012 @ 12:30 AM
I definitely think it is a bad choice, but it depends on your beliefs. I wasn't brought up that way and I wouldn't do it. Having sex on the first date will only seem right to me if before that date, there was a friendship and you decided to test the waters and go out on a date. Other than that, I don't think it's okay.
mardesflow Says
Report Aug 3rd, 2010 @ 12:11 AM
I say if you want to then by all means DO It! Whocares what everyone else thinks.
jujuvoodoo Says
Report Dec 6th, 2009 @ 08:35 PM
well I see it like this...he could think you are easy or if you do not sleep with him he may think that you are a tease.thats a difficult choice,maybe find out what he is looking for first?
Nyaz Says
Report Apr 30th, 2009 @ 05:10 PM
It's not bad at all, as long as it doesn't adversely affect how you feel about yourself. 'Bad' and 'good' aren't really relevant. The only considerations are 'action' and 'consequence'.
Lovvel Says
Report Apr 30th, 2009 @ 12:26 AM
Does it make you feel bad about yourself the next day? If not then go to it (just be safe!). :) I recently went to a relationship seminar and the speaker said something I can't get out of my mind "if you want a man to call you every night, then do not sleep with someone until they show you they will call. Otherwise..you may end up sleeping with a man who doesn't call you every night."
So obvious, but so true.
I think you have to decide what it is you are looking for (both in general and with a specific person) and see if sleeping with them falls in line with those goals.
There are times in life where all you really want is some sexual play and if that is the case and it will not hurt your self esteem then NO it is not wrong. You are finding a way to fulfill a need.
But I do recommend that you REALLY make sure you are okay with just sex. :)
MayIHelp Says
Report Apr 29th, 2009 @ 11:13 PM
YES IT IS!
renea7712 Says
Report Apr 29th, 2009 @ 06:15 PM
Is spending someone else's money and them not knowing it... wrong?
Voorheesm Says
Report Apr 27th, 2009 @ 11:03 PM
if you put out on the first date the guy loses respect for you. unless all you want is a fuck buddy then more power to you.
katyasag Says
Report Apr 27th, 2009 @ 10:33 PM
Not if you are not looking for anything more than a quick F$&%. Otherwise, I would say yes....
Report Apr 27th, 2009 @ 09:44 PM
It's not wrong, but men are very goal oriented and place more value on things they have to work for. Not that you should play games, but make sure you know he's really worth it and not just charming you for a night.
Report Apr 27th, 2009 @ 04:16 PM
As long a both parties are comfortable with it. So that means if either person has to stop and ask, 'Is this ok? going to make me a slut? going to mean he won't call?' then you probably should wait.
RAMONA Says
Report Apr 27th, 2009 @ 03:28 PM
I think it's totally wrong. What would you think of a man that slept with every girl on the first date? We have a lot of first dates in our lives. That equals a lot of sexual partners :O(
I've dated plenty of men for several weeks only to figure out that he's not really the one for me and I'm always glad that I didn't give myself to him completely.
yourhelper Says
Report Apr 25th, 2009 @ 03:18 PM
it dempends how well you know the guy\man
Report Mar 22nd, 2009 @ 09:00 AM
Um how old are you? Because usually this is something that a 20 something would ask. And besides I have to agree with allisonp - unless you are broadcasting it over the whole town, why would people know, unless you are attempting to make yourself known as the one nighter.
AllisonP Says
Report Mar 21st, 2009 @ 02:53 PM
I think this always depends on you. Who cares what everyone else thinks - and unless you are telling the whole world - why would they know? Wouldn't that be something to keep to yourself anyways?

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